- Ruth Soukup
- Ruth Soukup on Instagram
- Living Well Spending Less®
- ruth@ruthsoukup.com
- The Living Well Planner®
- Elite Blog Academy®
- Do It Scared by Ruth Soukup
- The Do It Scared Fear Assessment™
- Lauren Greutman
- The Personal Finance Planner
- The Recovering Spender
- @laurengreutman on Twitter
- Lauren Greutman on YouTube
- Lauren Greutman on Instagram
Lauren has a ton of insight to share on a variety of topics including both personal finance and building a business, but today’s episode is actually pretty special because we’re not really talking about any of those things, Lauren is actually sharing something a lot more personal and a story she’s never told publicly before.
You guys, this is a story you most definitely need to hear and I just want to start before we jump in by applauding her in the courage it took to open up and share some of her hardest lessons over the past couple of years with so much honesty and so much vulnerability.
Highlights
[04:45] – Lauren and Ruth go way back to the days of coupon deal blogging.
[05:37] – Lauren is a personal finance consumer savings expert. You can find her work at LaurenGreutman.Com which was formerly IamThatLady.com. She started as a coupon deal blogger and then evolved into budgeting and personal finance.
[06:13] – She also tackles a lot of the psychology behind why we spend.
[06:54] – She has also been on the Today Show, Rachael Ray, Fox News, and many other big shows.
[07:14] – Lauren also wrote a book on personal finance and getting your budget under control called The Recovering Spender.
[07:28] – Recovering means that she will always struggle with spending.
[07:48] – In 2010, Lauren started here website as a means to get out of $40,000 in debt. Out of necessity she started learning how to coupon.
[08:33] – She used to spend and hide stuff and make excuses for her spending.
[09:20] – Your why has to be greater then why you spend your money. When you figure the emotional stuff out the spending follows.
[11:09] – To get over the aspects of emotional spending, you need to understand your weaknesses.
[13:05] – Lauren shares an example of where she still struggles with making decisions based on her why.
[16:29] – Lauren is actually a recovering alcoholic as well. In 2017, her life fell apart. She was on a book tour, her social media and web presence were perfect, but she was drinking herself to death.
[17:06] – Lauren embraced the mommy wine culture, but the problem was that she doesn’t drink like other people.
[18:01] – When life got hard and it was too much, she started drinking again. She started hiding her drinking and going to different liquor stores, so people wouldn’t know how much she was buying.
[19:19] – In 2017, she realized that enough was enough and checked herself into rehab. She then went dark on the Internet.
[21:24] – She was in rehab for 35 days and then lived in a halfway house.
[21:57] – Lauren shares a story about how she was almost too drunk to be on the Today Show.
[23:41] – Her kids were 11, 7, 5, and 3 years old.
[24:30] – Lauren was completely broken and wanted the darkness gone.
[25:02] – The best and worst part about getting sober is that you get your feelings back.
[25:39] – She did a lot of therapy and really tried to simplify life.
[26:52] – She was still keeping busy in order to try not to feel.
[27:19] – She has been sober for two and a half years now and is just finally getting back to work in the last 3 months.
[29:54] – Lauren got divorced, met a new guy, and got engaged. There was no rule book for how to share all of this with the public.
[34:41] – You can only share your part of the story online.
[39:23] – You are worth getting help, and you can’t help other people unless you help yourself. It’s hard to give yourself permission to say I need help.
[40:37] – Having so much shame can put you into deep denial.
[41:29] – You have to take care of yourself regardless of what your husband or your kids think.
[42:55] – Everyone has their own journey. You have to figure out what is best for you.
[44:35] – Lauren now works from the backroom in her house. She has shared custody of her kids with her ex-husband.
[45:32] – She also started saying no to TV.
[47:04] – Her business supported her while she was in recovery. Her job is such a gift. She gets to share what she loves with people and spend time with her kids.
[49:13] – Lauren spent some time discovering the things she loves doing and the things that she hates doing. One of the things that she hates is writing.
[50:04] – She loves video creation, so she is focusing on YouTube.
[51:11] – She has someone write articles about her YouTube videos.
[53:39] – The best piece of advice is that you aren’t that important. Focus on other people’s lives and how you can be of serve them.
Podcast: Play in new window | Download
Very interesting. Lauren is very encouraging. I’m glad I caught the Podcast. I’m struggling with spending without a conscious. I know I feel good when I spend. After spending money that I need for other things that are infinitely more important I seem to reward myself as looser. I even tell God that I’m just not good enough and must be the dumbest person that He has created. Self pity what a waste of time.
This pod cast has been encouraging with reminding myself and other over spenders that we can do this. God has a purpose for each one of us.
Thank you for all the encouragement. You and Jennifer Maker are my two go to folk for ideas, encouragement and just plain fun. Welcome Lauren .
Thanks you so much Vicki! So glad you caught the episode!
Ruth, I love your podcasts! I’m writing a comment to Lauren, not sure if she’ll see it, but maybe you can somehow pass it on to her.
Talk about brave, way to go Lauren! Thank you for sharing your story and bearing your heart! While substance abuse is not my particular issue, it has affected dozens of people in my life, some very close to me and I lost a brother-in-law to alcoholism, he was 55. Thank God you got help when you did.
“You are not that important.” Focusing on service and giving back. –spot on! It’s so human for us to be stuck on ourselves and one doesn’t have to have substance abuse issues or to be famous to be “hooked on ourselves.” As a Christian, this is the most difficult part of my walk. In fact, it’s related to the sin of “pride” (self-pride, not like being a proud mom). Pride makes us an enemy to our best selves and to God. When we are prideful, we don’t seek God’s love, help or even human help. Your statement about not “being that important” is a step towards genuine humility…and oh man is that hard! I think about how it’s hard for me and I can’t imagine how hard it is when someone is as successful as you are.
C.S. Lewis nailed this for me when he spoke about real humility (not a false pretense of humility), he says: humility is “not thinking less of ourselves, but thinking of ourselves less”. Well..I’m still working on that and I suppose it’s a lifetime effort for most of us.
Thanks again and congrats on your wedding!
Hope – thank you so much for the kind word! I am sorry to hear of your brother. I lost my brother to addiction as well. It’s a hard thing to handle.
This is such a powerful episode. Lauren, how courageous of you for sharing this stage of your journey. I hope you realize that your transparency will reach much further than you expect it to and will be a help to so many. Ruth, great job with handling Lauren’s story with care and sensitivity!
Thanks Alaya for your comment. I hope you have a wonderful day!
Thank you for your sharing. I am worried that I lack creative ideas. It is your article that makes me full of hope. Thank you. But, I have a question, can you help me?
Hope is one of the vital highly effective feelings humanity has been thought-about so even since historical occasions. In terms of where to search out these types of western men, one supply is to go to an on-line marriage company. I spoke to Jewel Love, a Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist and the founding father of Interracial Couples Counseling, based within the San Francisco Bay area of California. Berkeley, California: University of California Press. New York: Plenum Press. Chronometric Dating in Archaeology. The European strategy would eventually make its approach into Americanist archaeology through the late 19th century, nevertheless it wouldn’t be until the second decade of the 20th century that sequence and detail grew to become a part and parcel of archaeology methodology. And the most effective part? So, what’s it prefer to be a part of the mail-order bride experience in the present day? I’m just not going to – to speak to private conversations that are going to occur, what’s going to be discussed, and simply communicate to what we can do, what we’re seeking to do, and why it’s important.
By customizing your filters on Boo, you’ll find your excellent match primarily based on age vary, ethnicity, pursuits, and different area of interest preferences. With its progressive matching system and tailored filters, Boo is designed to assist you discover your excellent match based on your particular preferences and pursuits. How can Boo help me discover hot European ladies? Available as a website and app, this platform features tens of millions of registered customers throughout the United States and more than 200 nations worldwide, as well as guided messages that will help you break the ice. With its give attention to compatibility, cultural nuance, and tailored filters, Boo is the final word platform for these in search of hot European women. Send a real reward by means of the platform. Taylor, R.E. (1987). Radiocarbon Dating. Taylor, R.E. (1997). “Radiocarbon dating”. Taylor, R.E.; Bar-Yosef, Ofer (2014). Radiocarbon Dating (2nd ed.). Millard, Andrew R. (2014). “Conventions for reporting radiocarbon determinations” (PDF). Taylor & Bar-Yosef (2014), pp.
Hogg, Alan G.; Heaton, Timothy J.; Hua, Quan; Palmer, Jonathan G.; Turney, Chris SM; Southon, John; Bayliss, Alex; Blackwell, Paul G.; Boswijk, Gretel; Ramsey, Christopher Bronk; Pearson, Charlotte (August 2020). “SHCal20 Southern Hemisphere Calibration, 0-55,000 Years cal BP”. Elder, Clayton D.; Xu, Xiaomei; Walker, Jennifer; Schnell, Jordan L.; Hinkel, Kenneth M.; Townsend-Small, Amy; Arp, Christopher D.; Pohlman, John W.; Gaglioti, Benjamin V. (2018). “Greenhouse gas emissions from diverse Arctic Alaskan lakes are dominated by young carbon”. The assumption was that certain styles of pottery had been popular in sure occasions, and through that time, the recognition would reach a peak and then fade away. Appreciate your prospects plus their habits, then target your web enterprise in an effort to fill their long run wants. When you have the same sensible mind, you possibly can change into good business companions, and she is going to turn into the face of the company and a perfect assistant because of her intelligence and schooling. This notion of similarity, even if idealized, strengthens the bond between companions, contributing to a extra satisfying and fulfilling [url=https://www.love-sites.com/is-charmdate-com-legitimate-or-a-scam-this-review-exposes-the-truth/]charmdate scam[/url] relationship. Acceptance permits individuals to view their partner’s behaviors in a extra constructive gentle, contributing to a healthier and more fulfilling relationship.
Acceptance performs a vital position in how people perceive and respond to their accomplice’s behaviors, influencing general relationship satisfaction. South, Doss, and Christensen’s 2010 analysis examines the influence of associate habits on relationship satisfaction, with a concentrate on the mediating function of acceptance. That’s what the president needed to deal with. That’s much more affordable than starting a relationship with somebody after 2 dates. The other purpose is the females’ psychology – ladies are extra sensible and sociable than males. As extra evidence of the predynastic period is uncovered, this dating methodology in relation to the pottery on site aids in figuring out the relative date of the location. So, if the same style of pottery was found at a special site, they should be from around the identical time interval. Chat with folks with the same objectives. Once you chat or exchange emails with a potential date, do they avoid sure questions, seem controlling or show other characteristics that will not be desirable? May 25, 2011. pp.