Every year, I send out an in-depth survey to find out more about my readers and customers. This survey addresses likes, dislikes, and potential areas of improvements. It also asks respondents to identify the word they would choose as their word of their year. The word that comes up over and over and over is “balance.” We convince ourselves that achieving balance will make us happy, and we’re never quite satisfied with where we are because we never feel like we’ve reached balance.
I’d like to invite you to take a moment to consider a different way of looking at things! What if the idea of balance that we think is desirable and possible is just a myth or fairy tale? What if it’s even a trap that’s designed to hold us back from pursuing our dreams and goals wholeheartedly? Along with this shift in perspective, I’d also like to invite you to realize that being selfish in some ways isn’t a bad thing. Sometimes you have to be selfish to get stuff done!
Sometimes, it feels like succeeding in one area means that you’ll fail in another area. What it’s important to recognize is that sometimes that’s okay! Sometimes you should be failing in one area so that you can succeed in another, because the alternative is being perfectly balanced in our mediocrity.
Tune in to learn more about why ditching the idea of balance is one of the best things you can do for your life.
Highlights
[04:06] – Ruth talks about a survey that she sends out every year in her company, and what it reveals about people’s desire for balance.
[05:53] – For those of us with kids or a family, there’s a special name for the feeling that Ruth has been describing: mom-guilt (or dad-guilt, of course!).
[07:41] – What if that voice that says we aren’t doing enough is lying to us?
[09:33] – As excited as we might feel about reaching new milestones or attaining a goal, the unspoken question is always whether pursuing our own dreams makes us selfish.
[10:49] – There are a few simple guidelines that can help us figure out when to be selfish or selfless.
[13:21] – Ruth believes that we are called from God to use our unique gifts, talents, and strengths to the best of our ability.
[14:38] – The second guideline to keep in mind is that no season lasts forever. Ruth gives examples of seasons from her own life, then points out that these seasons come and go.
[18:55] – The third guideline to remember is that if everything is important, then nothing is important.
[22:02] – Taking the time to identify your priorities is absolutely essential.
[22:52] – How can you be sure that you’ve chosen the right path and your priorities are in order?
[25:22] – It’s important to make the most of your time with your family, because pursuing a dream may mean more time away from your family than you’d like.
[28:15] – There’s one more guideline to keep in mind: it’s okay to make time for yourself.
[32:32] – Ruth points out that it’s time to let go of the guilt and stop telling yourself that you’re failing. Instead, start reminding yourself that balance is overrated!
[33:24] – If you would like the worksheet that goes with this podcast, head to this link or text “overrated” to 44222.
Podcast: Play in new window | Download
DIS Podcast 9.. So I have totally enjoyed all your podcasts so far but I have to say this last one about balance. That one was incredible. You spoke right to me.
I am like you and try to do things intentionally. Being a christian as well you pointed out some things like our calling at certain seasons in our life, etc. Just right on. Keep these podcasts going, you are doing a phenomenal job.
I loved this episode too, and it’s a great reminder that it’s OK to be selfish. But… I think it’s an unfair attack on the idea of balance. And I mention it, because I think there’s value in exploring balance. Maybe you could address this topic in a future episode.
To me, and I think many others, balance means determining how much weight to give each part of life, not how to give them equal weight.
Clearly, no one wants to put so much time into their career that they never see their kids, at least not for any great length of time. And no one wants to give so much time to career or kids that there’s no time to refill personal energy. Again, at least not for any great length of time.
But it can be difficult for each individual to determine what the right balance (that is, distribution of weight) is day to day, month to month, and long term.
Balance matters a lot, but it does not mean doing it all at 100% level 100% of the time. I’d love to hear your thoughts on determining this type of balance.
Well I just want to thank you for always giving a New Twist on your topics! Keep up the Great work Ruth🙌
I think this is a real great post.Much thanks again. Really Cool.
Just getting caught up on your podcasts. I can’t seem to find this one. It sounds like just the thing I need to listen to. I hope to see it up soon!
Hi Jill: This is for sure one of my favorites!! https://doitscared.com/episode9/
Why is there no podcast for episode 9?
Hi Rae: Here it is: https://doitscared.com/episode9/
So loved this one Ruth. As always, I love hearing you talk about your relationship with your husband and you both work together even though things may not seem conventional for some. Just hearing you say that your husband may not be gifted in leadership as you are, yet has an incredible gift of wisdom really helped me to realize I need to chill out and stop expecting my husband to always lead us. It ain’t happening! Why do I keep fighting it. I have always been the one to plan everything and go after our goals, why do I get stuck thinking that I’m doing it wrong because he is not leading? I must have had some real faulty teaching way back that I has created a belief system that he must lead for our lives to work. Thanks for the insight and encouragement!
This is all about giving yourself permission. It’s hard, but important.
Can you be more specific about the content of your article? After reading it, I still have some doubts. Hope you can help me.
ivermectin for mites: order Stromectol discreet shipping USA – Mediverm Online
https://britmedsdirect.com/# pharmacy online UK
buy penicillin alternative online [url=https://amoxicareonline.shop/#]amoxicillin uk[/url] cheap amoxicillin
order ED pills online UK: buy viagra – order ED pills online UK
http://britmedsdirect.com/# pharmacy online UK
pharmacy online UK: pharmacy online UK – online pharmacy
buy sildenafil tablets UK [url=https://britpharmonline.com/#]Viagra online UK[/url] British online pharmacy Viagra
order ED pills online UK: order ED pills online UK – buy viagra
http://medreliefuk.com/# buy corticosteroids without prescription UK
buy penicillin alternative online: cheap amoxicillin – generic Amoxicillin pharmacy UK
private online pharmacy UK [url=https://britmedsdirect.com/#]BritMeds Direct[/url] order medication online legally in the UK
cheap prednisolone in UK: buy corticosteroids without prescription UK – UK chemist Prednisolone delivery
buy sildenafil tablets UK: viagra uk – buy sildenafil tablets UK
Viagra online UK: BritPharm Online – Viagra online UK
buy sildenafil tablets UK: buy viagra online – buy viagra online
http://britmedsdirect.com/# private online pharmacy UK
Prednisolone tablets UK online: Prednisolone tablets UK online – order steroid medication safely online
BritPharm Online: BritPharm Online – viagra
BritMeds Direct: Brit Meds Direct – BritMeds Direct
pharmacy online UK: BritMeds Direct – BritMeds Direct
cheap amoxicillin: generic amoxicillin – generic Amoxicillin pharmacy UK
https://britmedsdirect.com/# private online pharmacy UK
online pharmacy: pharmacy online UK – order medication online legally in the UK
UK chemist Prednisolone delivery [url=http://medreliefuk.com/#]UK chemist Prednisolone delivery[/url] Prednisolone tablets UK online
Viagra online UK: buy viagra – order ED pills online UK
https://britmedsdirect.com/# Brit Meds Direct
buy viagra: viagra uk – order ED pills online UK
cheap amoxicillin [url=https://amoxicareonline.com/#]cheap amoxicillin[/url] generic Amoxicillin pharmacy UK
UK online antibiotic service: UK online antibiotic service – generic Amoxicillin pharmacy UK
https://amoxicareonline.com/# Amoxicillin online UK
https://zencaremeds.shop/# ZenCare Meds
pharmacies in mexico [url=http://medicosur.com/#]mexico pharmacy[/url] MedicoSur
mexico pharmacy: mexican pharmacy – MedicoSur
order medicine discreetly USA: online pharmacy price checker – buy Doxycycline
tadalafil tablets without prescription [url=https://tadalifepharmacy.shop/#]generic Cialis online pharmacy[/url] buy cialis online
http://medicosur.com/# mexican online pharmacy wegovy
los algodones pharmacy online: mexican pharmacy – best online mexican pharmacy
https://zencaremeds.shop/# ZenCare Meds com
buy cialis online: discreet ED pills delivery in the US – TadaLife Pharmacy
affordable online pharmacy for Americans [url=https://zencaremeds.com/#]buy Doxycycline[/url] pharmacy mall
mexican pharmacy online: mexico pharmacy – mail order pharmacy mexico
https://medicosur.com/# mexican pharmacy
buy cialis online: Cialis online USA – TadaLife Pharmacy
generic Cialis online pharmacy: cialis – trusted online pharmacy for ED meds
mexican pharmacy [url=https://medicosur.shop/#]mexican online pharmacy wegovy[/url] п»їmexican pharmacy
http://tadalifepharmacy.com/# tadalafil tablets without prescription
**neuro sharp**
neurosharp is a high-quality cognitive support formula made to elevate memory, attention, and overall mental performance.
http://medicosur.com/# mexico pharmacy
MedicoSur: MedicoSur – mexican pharmacy
**gl pro**
gl pro is a natural dietary supplement designed to promote balanced blood sugar levels and curb sugar cravings.
**sugarmute**
sugarmute is a science-guided nutritional supplement created to help maintain balanced blood sugar while supporting steady energy and mental clarity.
**vitta burn**
vitta burn is a liquid dietary supplement formulated to support healthy weight reduction by increasing metabolic rate, reducing hunger, and promoting fat loss.
**synaptigen**
synaptigen is a next-generation brain support supplement that blends natural nootropics, adaptogens
**glucore**
glucore is a nutritional supplement that is given to patients daily to assist in maintaining healthy blood sugar and metabolic rates.
MedicoSur: mexico pharmacy – mexico pharmacy
**prodentim**
prodentim an advanced probiotic formulation designed to support exceptional oral hygiene while fortifying teeth and gums.
**nitric boost**
nitric boost is a dietary formula crafted to enhance vitality and promote overall well-being.
affordable Cialis with fast delivery [url=http://tadalifepharmacy.com/#]safe online pharmacy for Cialis[/url] Cialis online USA
https://medicosur.shop/# mexi pharmacy
**wildgut**
wildgutis a precision-crafted nutritional blend designed to nurture your dog’s digestive tract.
**sleep lean**
sleeplean is a US-trusted, naturally focused nighttime support formula that helps your body burn fat while you rest.
TadaLife Pharmacy: tadalafil tablets without prescription – trusted online pharmacy for ED meds
**mitolyn**
mitolyn a nature-inspired supplement crafted to elevate metabolic activity and support sustainable weight management.
**yusleep**
yusleep is a gentle, nano-enhanced nightly blend designed to help you drift off quickly, stay asleep longer, and wake feeling clear.
**zencortex**
zencortex contains only the natural ingredients that are effective in supporting incredible hearing naturally.
cialis: trusted online pharmacy for ED meds – safe online pharmacy for Cialis
**breathe**
breathe is a plant-powered tincture crafted to promote lung performance and enhance your breathing quality.
https://medicosur.shop/# buying prescriptions in mexico
https://medicosur.com/# medication from mexico
mexican pharmacies near me [url=https://medicosur.com/#]mexican pharmacy[/url] mexican pharmacy las vegas
phentermine in mexico pharmacy: MedicoSur – mexican pharmacy
**prostadine**
prostadine is a next-generation prostate support formula designed to help maintain, restore, and enhance optimal male prostate performance.
http://tadalifepharmacy.com/# buy cialis online
trusted online pharmacy for ED meds [url=https://tadalifepharmacy.shop/#]cialis[/url] generic Cialis online pharmacy
trusted online pharmacy for ED meds: affordable Cialis with fast delivery – TadaLife Pharmacy
**pinealxt**
pinealxt is a revolutionary supplement that promotes proper pineal gland function and energy levels to support healthy body function.
**energeia**
energeia is the first and only recipe that targets the root cause of stubborn belly fat and Deadly visceral fat.
**prostabliss**
prostabliss is a carefully developed dietary formula aimed at nurturing prostate vitality and improving urinary comfort.
mexican pharmacy: MedicoSur – mexico pharmacy
**boostaro**
boostaro is a specially crafted dietary supplement for men who want to elevate their overall health and vitality.
**potentstream**
potentstream is engineered to promote prostate well-being by counteracting the residue that can build up from hard-water minerals within the urinary tract.
https://tadalifepharmacy.shop/# affordable Cialis with fast delivery
https://medicosur.com/# reputable mexican pharmacy
tadalafil tablets without prescription [url=https://tadalifepharmacy.shop/#]generic Cialis online pharmacy[/url] trusted online pharmacy for ED meds
Cialis online USA: discreet ED pills delivery in the US – buy cialis online
tadalafilo sin receta: comprar Cialis online España – comprar cialis
Cialis genérico económico [url=https://tadalafiloexpress.shop/#]tadalafilo sin receta[/url] Tadalafilo Express
http://intimisante.com/# achat discret de Cialis 20mg
potenzmittel cialis: Cialis Preisvergleich Deutschland – cialis kaufen ohne rezept
tadalafilo sin receta: tadalafilo – comprar cialis
https://intimisante.com/# cialis sans ordonnance
farmacia online italiana Cialis [url=https://pilloleverdi.com/#]miglior prezzo Cialis originale[/url] cialis prezzo
http://tadalafiloexpress.com/# cialis precio
**hepato burn**
hepato burn is a premium nutritional formula designed to enhance liver function, boost metabolism, and support natural fat breakdown.
cialis prix: pharmacie qui vend du cialis sans ordonnance – cialis prix
farmacia online españa envÃo internacional: comprar Cialis online España – cialis precio
**hepato burn**
hepato burn is a potent, plant-based formula created to promote optimal liver performance and naturally stimulate fat-burning mechanisms.
pharmacie qui vend du cialis sans ordonnance [url=https://intimisante.com/#]cialis prix[/url] cialis generique