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EP 9: Why There’s No Such Thing as Balance (So Stop Feeling Guilty!)

Jun 11, 2018


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Ruth Soukup

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EP 9: Why There’s No Such Thing as Balance (So Stop Feeling Guilty!)

Welcome to Do It Scared™ podcast! In every episode of this podcast, we’ll talk about how to face your fears, overcome obstacles, and create a life you love! Today, you’ll learn all about why this magical idea of “balance” everyone gushes about is totally overrated. If you’ve ever felt guilty because your life is out of whack, this is the episode for you!

Every year, I send out an in-depth survey to find out more about my readers and customers. This survey addresses likes, dislikes, and potential areas of improvements. It also asks respondents to identify the word they would choose as their word of their year. The word that comes up over and over and over is “balance.” We convince ourselves that achieving balance will make us happy, and we’re never quite satisfied with where we are because we never feel like we’ve reached balance.

I’d like to invite you to take a moment to consider a different way of looking at things! What if the idea of balance that we think is desirable and possible is just a myth or fairy tale? What if it’s even a trap that’s designed to hold us back from pursuing our dreams and goals wholeheartedly? Along with this shift in perspective, I’d also like to invite you to realize that being selfish in some ways isn’t a bad thing. Sometimes you have to be selfish to get stuff done!

Sometimes, it feels like succeeding in one area means that you’ll fail in another area. What it’s important to recognize is that sometimes that’s okay! Sometimes you should be failing in one area so that you can succeed in another, because the alternative is being perfectly balanced in our mediocrity.

Tune in to learn more about why ditching the idea of balance is one of the best things you can do for your life.


[04:06] – Ruth talks about a survey that she sends out every year in her company, and what it reveals about people’s desire for balance.
[05:53] – For those of us with kids or a family, there’s a special name for the feeling that Ruth has been describing: mom-guilt (or dad-guilt, of course!).
[07:41] – What if that voice that says we aren’t doing enough is lying to us?
[09:33] – As excited as we might feel about reaching new milestones or attaining a goal, the unspoken question is always whether pursuing our own dreams makes us selfish.
[10:49] – There are a few simple guidelines that can help us figure out when to be selfish or selfless.
[13:21] – Ruth believes that we are called from God to use our unique gifts, talents, and strengths to the best of our ability.
[14:38] – The second guideline to keep in mind is that no season lasts forever. Ruth gives examples of seasons from her own life, then points out that these seasons come and go.
[18:55] – The third guideline to remember is that if everything is important, then nothing is important.
[22:02] – Taking the time to identify your priorities is absolutely essential.
[22:52] – How can you be sure that you’ve chosen the right path and your priorities are in order?
[25:22] – It’s important to make the most of your time with your family, because pursuing a dream may mean more time away from your family than you’d like.
[28:15] – There’s one more guideline to keep in mind: it’s okay to make time for yourself.
[32:32] – Ruth points out that it’s time to let go of the guilt and stop telling yourself that you’re failing. Instead, start reminding yourself that balance is overrated!
[33:24] – If you would like the worksheet that goes with this podcast, head to this link or text “overrated” to 44222.